Coping with dating after divorce
Instead, "it's usually clear when you're not ready," says Susan Pease Gadoua, a therapist and author of .That is, "when the very idea turns you off." But you can decide that you're ready to at least try.These feelings may be scary and overwhelming for him.Talk with your son about how your dating makes him feel.As frustrating as this can be, your son's behavior is quite natural. If he's just gotten used to you and his father not being married, he might now fear that a stepparent will further complicate things and take up your time.There's also the issue of territory — it's his house, you're his mom, this date is not his dad.If he's really put off by the idea of you dating a man other than his father, explain that you're making new friends, just like he does when he's in a new situation.Try to maintain your usual routines with your son so that your dating doesn't disrupt his day-to-day life and he still has lots of time with you.
Whether it's been one year or six since the divorce decree, you may never know with absolute clarity that you're truly ready for another relationship. Doing nice things for yourself and having some life enjoyment that doesn't involve your kids makes you a better parent. I don't want to meet anyone and I'm never getting married again. You're saying this to protect yourself because you are afraid that you might never meet anyone. Not trying to be a jerk, but no, he or she probably won't.